Session 2: Sex Is . . . Powerful
We all define sex somehow. Sex is more than physical. Sex is emotional. The truth is, sex is far from casual.
Sex is powerful.
Some girls know that when they dress a certain way, look a certain way, portray a certain image, they will get a certain kind of attention from a certain kind of guy.
Some guys know that when they say and do certain things they get a girl’s attention.
For some guys the goal is to conquer, and they use sex to accomplish that goal.
When we take advantage of the power it has with the intent of getting something, do we ever end up getting what we want?
What happens when sex is used to accomplish something it wasn’t intended to accomplish?
When it comes to sex, who has the real power?
TRUTH
So Delilah said to Samson, “Please tell me what makes you so strong and what it would take to tie you up securely.” Samson replied, “If I were tied up with seven new bowstrings that have not yet been dried, I would become as weak as anyone else.” So the Philistine rulers brought Delilah seven new bowstrings, and she tied Samson up with them. She had hidden some men in one of the inner rooms of her house, and she cried out, “Samson! The Philistines have come to capture you!” But Samson snapped the bowstrings as a piece of string snaps when it is burned by a fire. So the secret of his strength was not discovered (Judges 16:6-9 NLT).
“How can you tell me, ‘I love you,’ when you don’t share your secrets with me? You’ve made fun of me three times now, and you still haven’t told me what makes you so strong!” She tormented him with her nagging day after day until he was sick to death of it (Judges 16:15-16 NLT).
Oftentimes when we use sex as a tool to try and accomplish something else we want—bragging rights, security, love or stability—we end up missing what we are after.
Sex in the right context is powerful. Sex in the wrong context is just as powerful but also dangerous.
Sometimes sex plays us, and sometimes we use it to play others.
We hear the message that we can use our bodies and use our words to leverage the power of sex. But very rarely do we get the message that when we do this, we lose something in the process.
Sex skews your perspective making you think you are ready for a future that may or may not happen with this person. Sex creates a false level of commitment that may not exist yet.
Regardless of your circumstances or your past, there is hope.
You can change your ways.
God is bigger than our failings in this area—no matter how big we may have messed up.
Sex is powerful.
You can see its power everywhere.
But it is not so powerful that it overwhelms and quenches God’s love for us